From 2001 to 2003, I was a staff copy editor at Esquire magazine. It was my first taste of corporate America: Esquire is owned by Hearst Magazines, a gigantic, somewhat shadowy private corporation that was rumored to be operated out of a castle somewhere on the Northern California coast.
There were, of course, many cool people in that office, but one of my favorites was Bob Riley. This was not only because Bob, as the magazine’s tech guy, bailed me and my computer out of numerous jams. It was also because Bob was warm, calm, utterly professional–and cool. He used to wear a really nice brown leather jacket.
Later I learned that his coolness was no front, but the real rock ‘n’ roll deal: Throughout the eighties, he was an in-demand New York session drummer and a member of Rage to Live, a great band whose self-titled 1986 debut was the first release on Hoboken’s Bar/None Records. (Bar/None’s founder, Glenn Morrow, was Rage to Live’s singer and guitarist.) With his wife, vocalist Elly Brown, Bob then formed the band Grace Pool and took on a broader range of multi-instrumental and production duties. Grace Pool released two albums for Reprise: Grace Pool ( 1988 ) and Where We Live ( 1990 ). In the picture above, he’s the one with the tie.
Last spring I was terribly saddened to learn that Bob, the father of two, had passed away from a sudden heart attack. I never had the chance to talk to him about his music–I never really had the chance to talk to him about anything, really, besides my gratitude for his unfreezing my Mac. I did go out and buy his albums, though. I like to think that, in a small way, listening to them is like having that conversation I never had.
Grace Pool: “Awake with the Rain”

January 4, 2007 at 5:27 pm
I never listen to that kind of 80s corporate rock anymore, so it’s good to have a good reason to do so. It’s funny the people who pass through our lives, who pass us by, the choices we make or don’t make. You can never really live life right, you just have to live it and take whatever chances come before it’s too late. Melancholia is alas true to life, given our prospects – in the end.
This cold must be getting me down – no way to start a new year!!
January 4, 2007 at 7:30 pm
The Grace Pool stuff definitely has an epic, windswept 80s production style that has fallen out of vogue, but the songwriting is pretty solid. Who knows, maybe chorus guitar and gated snare reverb will make a comeback…
January 5, 2007 at 5:43 pm
I’ve learned always to say “Thank you” and “I love you” while people can still hear the words.
January 5, 2007 at 6:00 pm
That’s a rare trait, but a good policy! You’re a star!
March 7, 2007 at 6:48 pm
The first Grace Pool album is one of my favorites of all time. I ended up here through a Google search for Bob Riley, trying to find more about him and his music. I’m sorry to hear about his recent death. Thank you for mentioning it on your blog.
- Hank
March 10, 2007 at 2:41 pm
Bob was working with me when he passed away and we worked together at Hearst too (I probably fixed your computer once or twice, but I was never as cool.) The New York Times had a very nice obituary of Bob this past February 9th (the anniversary of his passing) which also included information about an educational fund started for his children.
Bob was an amazing, charming and cool guy. He was always very low key and quiet, but it never fails that anyone who has come in contact with him remembers him and thinks warmly of him.
Music was his first love and I think people remember him that way, but I would also like to add, he was a damn good tech. Going into computers was something, I think, he did for his family to make money, but he was very good at it and approached it with the determination and attack of a great drummer.
August 16, 2007 at 5:53 am
I worked as an Au pair for Bob and Elly in 1998 till 2000. They were two of the best people I’ve ever met. I learnt a lot from the both of them during my time there. Bob was a great guy and he really loved his family so much.
My brother came to visit me from South Africa when he was 16 years old. And when he heard Bob play drums one day, he was so amazed that he decided right there and then, he wants to be a drummer just as good as Bob! Thanks to Bob’s inspiration my brothers dream came true. Today he his one of the best drummers I’ve ever heard(not just because he’s my brother)! He also gives drum lessons to people from ages 6 – 40 years old. I just wish Bob could have heard him play, he would have been so proud of him…
To Elly, Will and Tess. I miss you so much and will always love and remember you guys. You are part of the person I am today, thank you!
Love always, Liesl from South Africa. XX
March 23, 2012 at 10:03 pm
I know this is way unlikely, but I am trying to reach Elly Brown regarding the use of some of the old Grace Pool material. If anyone knows how to reach her please let me know. Thanks.
- Chris (dr.komor@gmail.com)
March 24, 2012 at 12:48 am
Hi Chris .. weird.. i just posted some pics of us back in the 2nd album (Where We Live) days when this notification came in of your post!! Anyway, maybe I can help you or Bob’s sister Kate? If you want to email me, just write to me at bbscala@gmail.com
XO
Beki
Grace Pool member from 1989 through 1992
July 7, 2008 at 8:51 pm
I had the pleasure of meeting Bob and Elly in 97. I had taken detour on my drive back back home from a business trip so that I could hear Elly sing and Bob play guitar behind her at the Luna Lounge in NYC. Afterwards we had dinner. They couldn’t have been nicer. I am so very sad to hear of Bob’s death. The two Grace Pool albums are among my favorites. He was a great talent.
June 2, 2009 at 5:44 pm
I’m shocked to learn that Bob Riley passed away. Grace Pool’s two records and Elly Brown’s solo album “Wax The Roses” are my favorite records of all time, and Elly Brown is my favorite singer in the whole wide world. I was fortunate to see Grace Pool perform live twice, both times at the old Nightclub 930 in Washington DC, back around 1990 when their albums were getting a lot of airplay on the legendary “underground” FM radio station WHFS in Bethesda, Maryland. I spoke with Bob briefly after their second show. And I exchanged a few emails with him back around 2004 when “Wax The Roses” was released, and bought ten copies of it from CDBaby which I did my best to distribute to musicians and radio DJs in the DC area. At that time Bob was saying that they were looking to go on tour at some point. I hadn’t heard any more from them in a while, and the CD had apparently gone out of print, and the EllyBrown.net website disappeared, so I was wondering what had happened. It is tragic and sad that Bob Riley passed away. I hope that Elly and their children are doing OK. If anyone is still reading this page and has any information about the educational fund for their children, please let me know by email at dpercival@igc.org.
July 10, 2010 at 7:04 pm
This is Bob’s sister. I’m very moved to read what’s been written here. If anyone of you ever checks back here and would like to contact me, I’d love to hear more stories of him. Thank you!
Kate
January 13, 2012 at 12:27 pm
Hello Kate Riley,
It is January 2012 – I used to know Elly and Bob when I lived in Westchester County, NY – Elly and I waitressed together and I attended their wedding in Mahopac, my home town (so…I probably met you there…) For some reason, I had it on my heart to google Elly and Bob (I’m so used to calling him Reilly!) today – as I was listening to “Don’t Hang Up’ on my youtube favorites. I was beyond shocked and saddened to read that Bob had passed away – I’m sorry for your loss. He was truly one of the kindest and most humble people I’ve known – as Elly is too. I have tried to contact her a number of times over the years, but she just doesn’t seem to want to hear from me. So if you see/speak to her, please tell her that she will always be one of my favorite human beings…thank you and God bless…
January 20, 2012 at 1:26 am
Hi Patricia,
I don’t understand very well how this blog/site works, but if you’ll write to me at my email address, I’ll respond in more detail: kriley@pshift.com. But all to say that the family is all doing well, and thank you for your kind words.
Kate
July 10, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Oh I realize that my email address is not apparent, so here it is: kriley@pshift.com
July 13, 2010 at 9:43 pm
Hi … it’s 2010 and I just discovered this blog thanks to my lovely sister in law Kate.I m not computer savy at all and cannot type well.Thank you so much for what you wrote.Of all his tech gigs he enjoyed Esquire the most.He liked the people . My heart is silent and aches after reading what you wrote about Riley. He was simply the most beautiful and genuine person I have ever known and there is no end … no way to describe the depths of my missing him.His children are 16 and 10 , thriving and glorious.Music has stopped for me but single motherhood is alive and strong.Thank you for your kind words.
Love
Elly
elly@mail.computer.net
July 28, 2010 at 7:31 pm
[...] that was floating around : Ghost of Me, Red Sunset and White Bird. These are demos she made with Bob Riley of Grace Pool. Bob passed away sadly and they were left forgotten . Let’s hope Mary will [...]
September 10, 2010 at 12:26 pm
I was in Grace Pool from 1989 to 1991 during the recording & release of “Where We Live” and toured with Bob, Elly and the band during 1990 and ’91. I agree on every count here. Bob Riley was one of the most honorable, funny, talented people I have ever met and when I heard he was gone I was more than shocked. So very, very sad.. I worried about Elly, the kids and family most of course, but everyone loved Bob .. The world lost a great man and a genius musician. Grace Pool was the most rewarding music I have ever played .. I will always cherish the days in the band as it is always in the forefront of my musical mind. I have not been able to find anything like this blog before today when a friend sent the link to me. Thank you Doug for this and Elly, Kate and family, please let me know how you are and know that I thought the world of Bob .. hopefully someone will re-release “Where We Live” with some bonus tracks (We had them!) .. as Bob said he wanted to do that someday .. I think it would really be a tribute to him .. just a thought. Elly .. Kate .. please e-mail me anytime.. Lots of Love to you gus and the kids! Miss you El !
XOXO
Beki
October 12, 2010 at 5:15 pm
Hi… I also was an au pair for Elly and Riley(2000 and 2002). I took care of Will and Tess and it was one of the best period of my life because of all of them.
I spent a lot of time with Riley, talking about music, “tech stuff” or anything. As all of you wrote, everybody loved Riley because he was such a beautiful person and mind. Riley loved his family so much: Elly, and his children Will and Tess. He would have done anything for his family.
I was so angry when I knew that he had passed away. The last time we saw each other was when he drove me to the train station (I was going back to France after a visit). We talked in the car. This scene had turn in my head so often since the day I learnt we would never see him again.
I just love you as much as my own family.
I have so many great souvenirs with all of you and with Riley… We became friends and I miss you and him so much.
I still listen your music, all the time. I often look at my photos and I remember you and Riley. Sometimes it’s like he would still be there, far away, like you from me, but in my heart, each of you is so alive. I do not know if my words in english reflect what I want to explain but I hope you’ll understand.
I am always trying to contact you in any way and that is how I found about this blog. I have tears in my eyes.
Happy and sad, at the same time, to read all the beautiful words, to read from you Elly, and from Kate.
I would love to hear some more from you and Will and Tess. Sometimes I go check Will’s unicycle videos on the web, it makes me happy to see him (not always easy to see his face though!)
Please give me some news anytime..
Lots of Love, Julia
August 5, 2011 at 8:09 pm
Hey:
I actually played in Grace Pool with Bob and Elly back in the day and did a lot of jingle work with Bob as well. He was so talented, not just as a musician, but also as an engineer and a producer. Bob had that incredibly rare ability to mix spirituality and technicality — two seemingly disparate pursuits that can reinforce each other exponentially in the right hands. And Bob had those hands. And, more importantly, he was probably the nicest guy I’ve ever met in the music business.
I still can’t believe he’s gone and often think of him — and that cool leather jacket! So glad this page exists and hope that people will seek out Bob and Elly’s music — you won’t be disappointed.
August 9, 2011 at 11:01 am
spurn — who are you? and what’s your’ email?I haven’t quite figured out how this blog or whatever it is works, and I’d love to be able to keep better track of everyone writing all of these wonderful things here.
And, Julia, can you also send me an email address so I can be in touch next time I’m in France (maybe next summer)? I can also send you some news of the family. Will and Tess are both doing great!
Also, Beki, how can I contact you?
Kate (Bob’s sister)
kriley@pshift.com
April 14, 2012 at 6:19 pm
I first heard Grace Pool in 1988 from an older friend who shared my love of music. It was one of the best albums I’ve ever heard and I still play it from time to time. I think their music was way under-rated – the song writing was amazing. I bought their second album “Where We Live” in 1990; it was also a great piece of work. I wish they would have made more music. I am sorry to hear that Bob Riley passed away; their music really moved me and it still does 24 years later….
May 26, 2012 at 1:27 pm
Bob and Elly were so kind and generous to me when I was writing music journalism back in the ’90s. I hadn’t discovered Grace Pool out on the west coast until after their recording and and touring days, but I was determined to write a grateful retrospective, and with some kind assistance from people who knew them, I was able to make a connection. Bob arranged a phone interview with Elly, which was wonderful, and he sent me a package filled with past articles, promo stuff, and best of all their music video on cassette which I had never seen. I will always be blessed with Bob and Elly’s music and with having had the joy of feeling their kindness and generosity.
Thanks to everyone for sharing their memories, they’re sweet to read and know Bob a little better. I would love to have known him in person.